Connect to Yourself First

I am super passionate about emotional intelligence and the benefits both personally, professionally, and for any community at large.  When we understand how our emotions affect others, and when we understand and can interpret other people’s emotional responses, communication becomes a smooth process.  And let’s face it, lack of communication or miscommunications are at the forefront of almost every major malfunction at home or at work.

Here’s the thing with communication – and emotional intelligence in general – you have to understand yourself first.  It is the stepping stone to every interaction you have in your daily life. And it’s not easy!  Practicing every day to manage your responses and tracking what triggers negative emotions versus positive emotions and focusing on positive responses and actually thinking before you speak or react… it’s work!  And it’s probably why 90% of the population is not so good at communication, or even have a true understanding of their inner self.

It can be simple though, and here is a good place to start:  Every day, take time to focus on the main areas of your life.  By focusing on yourself, you are not only learning to connect with yourself and listen to what your body and mind are in need of, but you are setting the tone for your future.   It’s not selfish – it’s smart.  Because connecting with yourself is the only way to be a better version of yourself.  Here are some suggestions to get started.

• Be active. Walk. Do some jumping jacks, squats and push ups. Play with the dog or your kids. Go outside and take 3 deep breaths and feel the air in your lungs.  Do something physical…you will feel better immediately.
• Be silent. Create a space that allows you to intently focus on what you are grateful for and what you want.  And if possible, do this first thing in the morning!  Getting yourself into a positive mindset will set the tone for the day.
• Be present.  The people around you love you for you, but when you disconnect from humanity and connect to the phone, you miss an opportunity to nourish your own soul.  In the same respect, surround yourself with people that will inspire you to be better and do more.
• Be proactive.  Take action before you have a reaction.  You have to take the first step in order to move forward, otherwise you are just standing still.
• Be adventurous.  Try something new.  Get out of your comfort zone.  Be spontaneous some days.

Cheers to you!